Living in England has made me appreciate the United States much more. That's not to say I don't like England. If I weren't biased by the fact that I was born and grew up in the U.S., I would probably like both countries equally. As it is, I like the U.S. a little bit better. Heading back yesterday, I couldn't help romanticize my country little bit. All of its flaws seemed to fade into the background.
That is, of course, until the flight, when I watched the movie "I Love You, Phillip Morris." Watching that made it extremely difficult to romanticize the U.S. I was bluntly reminded of the fact that I was flying back to a country that wouldn't allow this sweet, funny, and touching movie to be released in theaters because it was "too obscene."

Too obscene. Think about that for a minute. Before you start to wonder what about "I Love You, Phillip Morris" could be too obscene, think about
all the things that are
not too obscene for American theaters. The "Saw" movies. "Kill Bill." Movies with war. Movies with rape. Movies with men who turn into giant prawns.
I'm not saying that any of those movies shouldn't be shown - far from it. What I
am saying is that, given the choice, I would much rather my hypothetical child see Jim Carrey humping some guy than see someone's head getting blown off in a shower of blood. Of course, neither is appropriate for a young child to watch. But while the sex may be inappropriate, at least it's not
wrong.I mean, imagine the conversations. In the first scenario (sex), you have to tell your child that he saw something that happens only between grown-ups. That is not a big deal, because children already know that there are certain things that only grown-ups are allowed to do. You also may have to explain homosexuality and sex. Well, those are conversations you will be having with your child anyway. Contrary to what anti-gay activists would have you think, children are not scared by things that they don't understand. If they were, they would be scared all the time, because children don't understand a lot of things.

In the second scenario, you have to explain to your kid why someone would blow someone else's head off. Can anyone really explain that? You also have to deal with the fear that seeing someone's head get blown off will inevitably instill in a child. Movies with graphic violence can cause nightmares in
adults. Seeing Jim Carey and Ewan MacGregor get it on may not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'd just laugh at an adult who said it gave him nightmares.
Now let me tell you about the "graphic sex" in "I Love You, Phillip Morris." It's not giving anything away to tell you that it's tame. It's beyond tame. It's mild. There are only two sex scenes. Only one of them involves nudity; neither of them shows any genitalia. In fact, the only genitalia in the movie appears in the form of a dick-shaped cloud that follows the main character from the beginning to the end like some sort of strange phallic guardian angel.
The people who have prevented "I Love You, Phillip Morris" from being released in the U.S. don't object to the fact that it contains "graphic sex." They object to the fact that it contains
gay sex. That, my friends, is bigotry at its most pure.

That bigotry has kept a movie from being released in the U.S. is, in itself, an outrage. But add to that the fact that "I Love You, Phillip Morris," is not just a movie - it's a
great movie - and it's both an outrage and a shame. It's a damn shame. I think most of my friends would love this movie. Furthermore, the relationship at its center - between the characters played by Carrey and MacGregor - might do a lot to encourage better understanding of gay people as, you know, people.
A lot of bigotry in this country stems from an inability to see gay men and women as regular people who have the same feelings as everyone else. Anti-gay movements work to de-individualize gay people into a faceless mass of perversion. Portrayals of gay people in TV and movies, when handled well, can counter that perception. "I Love You, Phillip Morris" contains a positive portrayal of gay people. Which is not to say that the gay characters are perfect; they are not, and that's precisely the point. Instead they are multidimensional, flawed, and relatable - all of the traits that make good movie characters, regardless of sexuality.
So yeah. It's a damn good movie. And a damn shame.